tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048078.post5571682584099835227..comments2023-10-26T03:04:42.050-05:00Comments on The Prosperity Project: Reclaiming Your PowerShirley Twofeathershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05911925862486389242noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048078.post-46523645206675170592009-07-06T22:44:07.860-05:002009-07-06T22:44:07.860-05:00I really liked the breakdown on this, too. I know ...I really liked the breakdown on this, too. I know that feelings of insecurity and inacequacy plague me all the time, and even though they were rooted in my childhood, it is me that can not seem to overcome them. Yesterday, when we talked about friends, and what they meant to us, my list was pretty short. And I realized that I don't expect a lot out of people because I don't want to end up disappointed. However, I expect humanly impossible things from myself. And when I don't live up to those expectations, I am totally disappointed in myself. If I can't even accomplish what I think I should, there is where a lot of my inadequacy comes from. Then, because I feel inadequate in my own mind, I project that on to other people and feel insecure about what they think about me. I feel that because I have made horrible decisions where men are concerned, that I can't trust myself. One of the biggest things I need in a friendship is trust....the next big thing is I have to respect a friend. I don't respect myself because I feel constantly disappointed about not living up to my own expectations about myself. The next thing on my list was being nurturing, which I am to everyone else but myself. Because of all the disappointment in myself I feel I don't deserve to be nurtured. This causes even more insecurity because if I don't deserve it from myself, then how could I deserve it from anyone else? It's interesting to uncover all of these revelations, but now, how to stop it? I have no idea. Then I feel insecure about my own ability to fix this problem. Obviously, all of this inadequacy and insecurity is definitely directly related to the lack of self esteem I have. Whether it is caused by it or a symptom of it, I am not sure. However, this is definitely making me have a lot of self-dialogue about my own idiosyncrasies. Now we need some concrete methods to overcome these feelings and perceptions of ourselves. :)Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02431703187468855688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048078.post-86853934262407804612009-07-06T19:48:49.057-05:002009-07-06T19:48:49.057-05:00sometimes i think people think it is the "in...sometimes i think people think it is the "in" thing to have a painful childhood. mine did the best with what they had. you can always find someone that had it worse and i just keep on working on making mine better. like this one lady that wanted to know if the med i was taking made me depressed no it just helped with the problem.msvb19https://www.blogger.com/profile/15090567128207660359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048078.post-58849289104269330552009-07-06T17:10:10.430-05:002009-07-06T17:10:10.430-05:00Hi Cindy - good point about the painful childhood ...Hi Cindy - good point about the painful childhood thing. And you are absolutely right about perceptions - I love that insight about how our perceptions change with our moods.shirleyhttp://shirleytwofeathers.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36048078.post-75252213229725640122009-07-06T16:51:09.418-05:002009-07-06T16:51:09.418-05:00I like the way you broke it all down and talked ab...I like the way you broke it all down and talked about it. Very illuminating! I had to LOL about the part where it talks about what our unique qualities are and you said you don't know, you would have to ask someone - I was thinking the same thing! It is very unfortunate that we subconsciously constantly seek others' approval whether we are aware of it or not.<br /><br />I have to disagree about the painful childhood thing, though. I did NOT have a painful childhood and I know others who also did not, yet we struggle with self doubt and self worth, too. I also know lots of people who did have painful childhoods, yet overcame them. <br /><br />And then there are those whose perception of their childhoods is painful, even though it may have not really been. Case in point, my son, who had lots of love, encouragement, never went hungry, always had a warm dry place to live and plenty of toys, yet according to him, had a "horrible" childhood. Really?? <br /><br />I think sometimes too much blame is placed on one's parents and childhood when the problems may have already been there - maybe we wrote them into our chart when we came to this life, maybe we had a difficult childhood in a previous life. But I think it's a cop out to blame our parents for our problems. <br /><br />I am amazed at "perception" and how even the most simple idea can be perceived by different people simultaneously as good or bad. Even within ourselves, perception changes depending on our moods.<br /><br />I think the crux of the matter is to try to change our self-talk, try to see things in relative terms, and try to stay positive. <br /><br />I hope all this made sense???Cindy Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03737043573500353883noreply@blogger.com