I wanted to ask. Do you ever think it's healthy to BE angry and irritated? For instance, if there is a situation that affects alot of people that needs change, do you find that the energy to initiate change for the better is sometimes sparked by a negative emotion, such as feeling unjustness or dishonor or helplessness?
I was discussing this project with my sister who is in the midst of negotiating at a hospital between a newly formed union and administration. There is a critical need for change..the health and well being of a community is at stake. Patient care is often compromised by shortcomings of the current structure. It's not just about money and benefits, it's a much larger scope. So her question is, "When we enter a meeting with intention that management will concede to our requests and sign off and this will be over...and they don't budge...how do we react?"
I tried to picture using Ho'oponopono, tried to explain the project. But it seemed difficult. What would you advise?
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Here's what I think: Anger is a great emotion for getting things moving. I also believe that what you feel needs to be respected and honored.
I don't think that Ho'oponopono means never having what we label "negative" emotions - fear, anger, sorrow, etc. I think it just means to have a place of compassion and love for yourself when you are feeling uncomfortable. And sometimes anger is uncomfortable - other times it feels really damn good.
Finding a space of being able to say I love you and thank you even in the face of something that appears to be unresolveable... that's big!
How to apply Ho'oponopono in such a frustrating situation that your sister finds herself in... in my life (how I would do it)... might be something like this:
I love you people and I'm sorry that it is so important for you to be so pigheaded and selfish and greedy. I am sorry that you are so full of fear that you compromise the health of those who depend on you. That's a sad thing.
And(this is the hardest part)then I would look into my own self at all the ways I can think of that I am the same as them.
If I'm having a really "enlightened" day, I might possibly, at this point, be able to make a turn around by finding compassion for myself and then applying it to them.
If I'm not having a particularly "enlightened" day, I might do the glass of water exercise mentioned in the teleconference. The idea being that you fill a glass of water up 3/4 of the way and then have the intention that whatever it is within you that may have contributed to the situation finds its way into the water. Periodically you rinse the glass and refill it with water.
The glass of water technique worked really well for me when I was absolutely HATING my job. It only took 2 days of doing, and now, when I'm at work or when I'm thinking about work, I don't have all that angst and resistance that I had been feeling before. I am looking for a different job, I will find a different job, but in the mean time - I'm feeling relaxed about it.
Now those things are all fine and dandy for finding a little bit of peace about a situation. But they might seem totally useless to someone who feels compelled to DO something about it. Being a "doer" I know how that is...
And I think that any action that presents itself ... any thing you might feel led to do to rectify the situation ... those things could and should be followed through on. While at the same time maintaining a space of love forgiveness and gratitude.
Also, this is not an "instant" cure. It may take weeks, even months for your sister's situation to be resolved. Steadily applying a spirit of love and self forgiveness to the situation may result in huge changes within the hospital administration and their policies that might not be visible for quite a while.
I feel like I'm rambling on and on... and I don't know if this was helpful at all. So, I'm going to shut up now and give other people a chance to say what they think.
one way this concept could work in Karla's sister's situation- maybe, if your sister did the i love you and i'm sorry for whatever hand i have had n causing this negative space. Then, allowing herself forgiveness for it. Really, i think the whole concept is how it works for YOU, the person saying it. She could say it into the air in both negotiation rooms and it could solve problems right there without her even lifting a finger. it's like the ripple effect from someone dropping a stone of forgiveness and love into a deep dark lake, there are still ripples on the surface. those ripples are what change lives and situations. I think that's the whole idea of this project, is giving yourself the responsibility to love and forgive what caused you to be involved in the situation to begin with. then it will affect how the situation goes in her mediation attempts, because that's where the situation has meaning for her. it's simpler than trying to look at two angry sides and argue till you are blue in the face.
Okay I also feel that in this situation that Karla's sister needs to try and keep seeing this with love. Being aware of anger, frustrtion, in justice does not mean we have to act with those emotions, nor do we have to feed them by giving them to much space in our heads/hearts. Seeing these bored members, typo intended, doing the right thing through love instead of trying to force them to do right through anger or a sense of justice will I beleive work much faster and more permanently in the long run. We have to see them being not only able to do the right thing but doing it. If we see them as just being able to do it we are still seeing them as flawed, we are still looking at them as an imperfect picture of humanity when the real, true picture of them is love, perfection and oneness with all. THAT IS THE TRUTH, whether they are exhibiting this behavior or not it is the truth. I see all participants in this process acting from a place of love and compassion for all involved with the highest good for all being achieved. So Mote It Be.
Oh Thank You, Thank You, Thank You! Your insights are beautiful and so very appreciated! I can't wait to forward them to my sister! If it wasn't 4:30 am, I would call her! Shirley, yes I think we need to honor our honest emotions, anger etc. but I think this project helps in what happens next! It's like Michelle said, about how the concept works for the person saying it. Feeling and allowing your own peace and love. But at the same time Bookworm hit the nail on the head because we need to remember our unity rather than the void of differences between us. Awesome advice all and bless you for taking the time to really look into your hearts to answer. Love you!!
Forgiveness is so beautiful...I love the metaphor of ripples across a deep lake!
Hi,
I really enjoyed this post on Ho’oponopono
I have made my Summary notes on Joe Vitale and Dr Hew Len’s wonderful book “Zero Limits” available at:
http://www.whatishooponopono.com/Hooponopono_Zero_Limits.htm
Making these notes has really helped me in better understanding Ho’oponopono, and I hope that you enjoy them and find them beneficial.
I encourage your feedback.
Kind regards,
Saul Maraney
Johannesburg, South Africa
www.whatishooponopono.com
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Thank you Saul... Wow! That was one heck of a list of notes! I'll include your link in our project synopsis for anyone who might be interested.
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