One of the ways we tend to hide what we really want from ourselves, is in connection with our debts. Many of us have one or more debts that seem to remain unpaid or that we pay late each month. This is no accident.
If we have difficulty paying a particular debt, we must assume that we want the debt to be unpaid or to be paid late. Invariably, if we look at the person or company to whom we owe the money, we will notice less than positive feelings toward them. In order to change the result, we must change what we want....
... I am so sorry, but this post has been moved to my new website, The Prosperity Project, and can be found in its entirety here: Do we want to be in debt?
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“We all not only could know everything. We do. We just tell ourselves we
don't to make it all bearable.”
~Neil Gaiman
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When I was reading this I suddenly realized that by avoiding and withholding in terms of my bills and my debt, I am also avoiding and withholding love for myself..
That I am somehow using my debt to punish myself and "put the screws" to shirley and keep her squashed down...
Interesting.. I don't quite know what to do with this information.. but it's interesting..
I know I am very lucky that most of my bills are just for month-to-month expenses like utilities, etc. I only owe about $350 altogether to 2 different credit card places and I'm close to paying those off and that's a good feeling. What I have issues with is being forced to pay for a debt you don't believe is yours to pay. I am currently fighting with a debtor and my health insurance company over a bill - my HR dept advised that while it is being disputed/appealed, I should go ahead and pay it, but why should I? I actually have a call in to a lawyer about it - I always thought that if a bill was being disputed, it couldn't be turned over to a collection agency, but that's what is happening. I think it is just ridiculous how debtors abuse people and threaten people! Consumers right now are really trying to either keep their credit score high or (in my case) raise it, and then being forced to pay something you are disputing is a slap in the face when they threaten you with collections! I think it's interesting that while I have managed to eliminate almost all of my LEGITIMATE debt, these other STUPID things that I shouldn't have to pay keep occurring! I feel it's some sort of lesson from the universe but what? To never feel completely happy and debt-free because you never know what bogus debt somebody is going to throw at you?
Back to the posting, yes, that particular debtor is HATED by me and I sure am not going to pay them unless it really is going to hurt my credit, and then you bet I will be withholding and late and only pay the tiniest amount possible to keep from going to collections! And I know if I do pay it off my chances of getting a refund are probably 0%.
i am lucky in that I don't have any debt, just monthly stuff. And, that i have had help with those bills. i have been too tired to think about them, but they seem to get paid. right now everything I am doing financially seems as if i am sailing right under the radar by the skin of my teeth, but still, head above water. now I just need to figure out how to master the 'draw' aspect to money...and how to do the 'release' part gracefully. it's really hard for me to release money once I have it. I wait to the last minute to pay the bills, like something could happen at any moment and that money might have to be rerouted. it rarely ever happens. but i think part of my problem with receiving money is the fact that if i am holding on to it too tightly, then it is hard for more money to get into that space. easier said than practiced....
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