Here are some thoughts about goal setting that I found at Steve Pavlina's website:
A major obstacle that prevents people from enjoyably achieving their goals is that they set their goals incorrectly to begin with. This problem occurs because people don’t understand the nature of time well enough. When people consider a particular goal, they often worry about the time commitment: If I start my own business now, it could take years to make it profitable. I’m so overweight it could take years for me to get in shape. If I break off this unfulfilling relationship, it could take years to get back on my feet again. Such thoughts are clearly demotivating, but more importantly they reveal a total misunderstanding of the nature of time....
... I am so sorry, but this post has been moved to my new website, The Prosperity Project, and can be found in its entirety here: Setting Goals
A major obstacle that prevents people from enjoyably achieving their goals is that they set their goals incorrectly to begin with. This problem occurs because people don’t understand the nature of time well enough. When people consider a particular goal, they often worry about the time commitment: If I start my own business now, it could take years to make it profitable. I’m so overweight it could take years for me to get in shape. If I break off this unfulfilling relationship, it could take years to get back on my feet again. Such thoughts are clearly demotivating, but more importantly they reveal a total misunderstanding of the nature of time....
... I am so sorry, but this post has been moved to my new website, The Prosperity Project, and can be found in its entirety here: Setting Goals
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I can't set a goal and keep at it for even 5 minutes. Even when I know it would feel good. It's like I say, "OK, I'm going to do this, it will be easy.. fun... good... etc". And even as I am saying it, I can feel the resistence rising up inside me.
The things I don't resist are my little internet projects... and drinking beer... and eating crap food.. and wasting hours and hours fiddling around avoiding any real work that would actually benefit me physically or financially...
So what's up with that? And how is this post from Steve Pavlina helpful to me with that problem?
I don't know. I'm going to have to go back and read it again I guess.
Hey Melissa! The thing is that I can set a goal of say... drinking too much beer tonight, or spending hours and hours obsessing over something ridiculous and unimportant, or playing mah jong for 7 hours.. and I would be able to keep each and every one of those goals.. easily. It's when the goal involves something "good" for me.. something "better" or even just different from what I am currently doing.. then it just falls apart. It's almost like I don't want to feel good.. or I don't want to do the work required to feel good.. or something.. I don't know.. and I don't know how to get out from under it. The part of me that "makes" me do stuff got broken several years ago (from over use) and I don't know how to go about fixing that.
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